Subtle intentions

in a recent meeting with a couple I found my initial observations to be curiously about their choice of seating. he chose to sit next to me as she chose to sit on a love seat as we talked about his issue and its impact on his life. There were moments during the conversations that opened my eyes a bit to the dynamics of their relationship. often it is not what we say but how we say it. sometimes it is not how we say it but how our bodies say it. posture, facial expressions and even something as subtle as where we look gives me subtle interpretations into what is really meant behind the conversation.
As the man spoke he made many comments about what he has done to try to help himself with this problem he is battling, I looked over at his fiance and saw the quiet words she was speaking with her eyes and body. A small shift in her posture, a look out the window or down at the floor began to speak about her feelings for him at different points of the conversation.
What I find in most relationships that are experiencing trouble is that each person in the relationship are focusing on their internal struggle with the problems and have difficulty seeing the other person and the difficulties between them. to bring them to a new insight requires more than just conversation about their feelings and thoughts. before that can occur a simple exercise could be effective in creating a more powerful environment for that conversation.
the man and the woman are asked to walk into the bathroom, or their bedroom and look in the mirror at each other. the image of them together creates just that, them together. at this point the conversation takes on a more intense focus. the conversation becomes more intimate.

Happy Valentine's Day everyone reading!

Don